"Girls just don't care anymore, man, they're like the dudes." As a friend of mine brooded over his nasty breakup on a swing set, I couldn't help but wonder...have gender roles swapped? Are men now the ones left to overanalyze and agonized while females brush it off and continue the hunt? It certainly seems that way. So why? Have men started caring more? Have women started caring less? Has the stereotype of males being nothing but cheating jerks forced women to become callous unfeeling beasts? Is there any hope for true romance for the modern woman?
I'd like to think so, but most of us cling very tightly to our trust issues and baggage. Most of my closest friends keep men at such distances that the poor guy doesn't even know what's going on. We feel as women that we have to keep them guessing, otherwise we'll lose that upper-hand and end up feeling heart broken and stupid. For relationships to work, however, I think we have to let go of that fear ladies. Because what I'm seeing is guys who really care, guys who give up everything just to see their ladies smile, guys who put their all into a relationship only to see it crumble in the distrusting, scared fists of their beau.
Perhaps the fear is too imbedded in our heads, maybe it's even a subconscious obnoxious need to be the one wearing the pants. I don't know, but I do know that personally I've got to let go. I've got to trust, to be vulnerable, to let him have the chance to be my prince charming or a total... waste of time.
Chatboard (0)